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Question:Is it permissible for a son to point out his father's mistakes if those mistakes cause embarrassment for the family in front of others?
Answer:In the name of Allah, yes, it is obligatory, but it must be done politely, in private, and in a gentle, affectionate manner that invites the father's empathy. Allah knows best.
Question:Sometimes a son may engage in a heated argument with his father, or a daughter with her mother, over a daily, practical matter, causing the parents to become upset. Is this behavior permissible? And what are the boundaries that sons and daughters must not cross in their interactions with their parents?
Answer:In the name of Allah, children must avoid behaving in a way that is considered disrespectful to the father or mother in social norms. They should seek to please their parents through kindness and affection. Simply kissing the hand or feet of the father or mother can soften their hearts. Such an act is not a humiliation for the son or daughter, but rather a form of honor. Allah knows best.
Question:To what extent must parents be obeyed? If a person is financially independent and lives separately from their father, does the father have the right to forbid them from traveling or engaging in other non-prohibited activities? And would the son be sinful if he disobeys his father in such matters?
Answer:In the name of Allah, if the action is regarded socially as an act of rebellion or disrespect toward the parent, then based on secondary considerations, the child must adhere to the father's guidance. Allah knows best.
Question:What is the religious punishment for disobeying parents?
Answer:In the name of Allah, know, my son, that disobedience (to parents) constitutes, Allah forbid, two crimes: one against Allah Almighty, involving transgression against His limits and rejection of His commands, and the other against the parents. To avoid the punishment from Allah, repentance and seeking forgiveness must be continuous. To resolve the second (crime), it is necessary to please the parents by every possible means, whether they are alive or deceased. If one or both have passed away, the child must seek forgiveness for them and perform good deeds with the intention of pleasing them on the Day of Judgment. Additionally, the child should continue reciting the special supplication for Mondays found in the book of Mafateehul Jinan (The Keys to Paradise) and others. Allah knows best.
Question:Is it a sin for children to abandon or leave their parents if the parents are mistreating them?
Answer:In the name of Allah, It is permissible for them to reduce their interactions to avoid problems, but complete and total abandonment is not permissible. Allah knows best.
Question:Which sin is greater, adultery or disobedience to parents?
Answer:In the name of Allah, adultery. Allah knows best.
Question:Is it absolutely necessary to obey parents, is it desirable, or forbidden to harm them only, and not to obey them? What are the limits of rights, meaning when does a child become a parent-disobedient? Is it necessary for the child, if he was among the scholars and the father of the common people, to obey him [his father] in what he [the son] knows about his steps in worldly matters?
Answer:In the name of Allah, as for what is permissible in terms of being obligatory with any title, one must obey the parents in them, as in the holy Quranic verse “And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say:”. As for harming them, if it is in obedience to Allah, then it is not forbidden in it, such as seeking due knowledge and exerting effort and night-time efforts by the student. If they forbid him solely because of love and compassion on him, it is not permissible for him to leave the duty. And it does not make any difference whether the parents are scholars or not. Allah knows best.
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